WABIRO · RELATIONSHIP FLAGS
Relationship Flags, Explained
Four colours for talking about relationship behaviours — not diagnosing people. Context, repetition and how someone responds when you raise a concern all matter.
Green, yellow and red describe how a behaviour affects the relationship. Beige sits outside that spectrum: it is a harmless quirk. Safety concerns sit outside this playful spectrum.
Compare yellow, red, green and beige flags
Green flags
Repeated behaviours that build trust, care and room to be yourself.
Example: They hear a boundary and adjust without making you pay for it.
Read about green flagsYellow flags
A behaviour worth noticing or discussing, but not automatically a dealbreaker.
Example: A jealous comment that is heard and does not become a pattern.
Take the Yellow Flag TestRed flags
A repeated or serious behaviour that undermines trust or respect.
Example: A concern keeps returning, and raising it brings blame or punishment.
Take the Red Flag TestBeige flags
Harmless, oddly specific quirks that say little about relationship health.
Example: They narrate every trip from the kitchen to the sofa.
Take the Beige Flag Quiz
Fear, threats, violence, coercion, stalking, control or isolation are not playful yellow flags. They are safety concerns. See safety resources.
What does a yellow flag mean in a relationship? · See the comparison and examples