Are We Compatible?
A free two-person compatibility test. You answer, your partner answers separately, and you both see where your styles converge and diverge — without seeing each other’s answers.
- 3 min
- 16 questions
- Free
- No account needed
- Shareable
Your answers stay on this device. Your full result is free; an optional in-depth report is offered after it.
Are we compatible?
The Wabiro compatibility test is a two-person quiz: each of you answers the same 16 statements about how you actually behave in a relationship, separately, and the result compares your styles across eight dimensions — communication, trust, conflict, affection, autonomy, money, life plans and pace. You get the alignment of your styles (0–100), where they converge and where they differ. It does not decide whether you are compatible or should stay together, and individual answers are never shown to the other person.
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What it measures
- Communication
- When and how you like to talk things through.
- Trust
- How much reassurance and information you each need to feel calm.
- Conflict
- Pause first or talk now: your instincts in a disagreement.
- Affection
- How love is shown and received day to day.
- Autonomy
- Time together versus time apart.
- Money
- Planning, spending and sharing.
- Life plans
- Where you are heading and how decided you are.
- Pace
- How fast a relationship should move.
How it’s scored
Each person describes their own style on 16 statements (0–3). For each of eight dimensions we keep only the mean of your two statements. Alignment on a dimension is 100 minus the gap between your mean and your partner’s, scaled to 0–100. The overall alignment is the plain average of the eight. Nobody ever sees the other person’s answers.
Read the full methodWhat is relationship compatibility?
Relationship compatibility is how well two people’s needs, habits and plans fit together — how they communicate, handle conflict, share money and time, and what they want long term. Research suggests similarity on paper predicts less than how a couple handles differences, so a compatibility score is a starting point for conversation, not a forecast.
Examples
- One of you needs to talk a fight through tonight; the other needs a day.
- Different ideas about how often to see friends.
Relationship compatibility vs attachment style
Attachment style describes one person; compatibility describes how two people fit.
Read the full guide: Are we compatible? 16 questions couples avoid — and how to ask themGlossary entry
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See all questionsHow does the two-person test work?
You answer 16 statements about yourself, then create a private invitation link and send it to the person you want to compare with. They answer the same 16 statements on their own device. As soon as they finish, you both see the alignment of your styles. Links expire after 14 days and can only be used once.
In the compatibility test, will my partner see my answers?
No. Each of you answers separately on your own device. The only thing sent to our server is one average per dimension (eight numbers between 0 and 3). The comparison shows where your styles converge and diverge — never an individual answer.
Does the result say whether we are compatible?
No. It measures the alignment of your styles: for each dimension, 100 minus the gap between your two averages. Similar styles are comfortable and different styles are workable — the number tells you where a conversation is worth having, not whether you should be together.
Can opposites be compatible?
Often, yes. Different styles — one of you plans, the other improvises; one talks a fight through tonight, the other needs a day — are workable when both people know about the difference and negotiate it. Problems come less from the gap itself than from never naming it. The test shows where your styles diverge so you can talk about those places first.
Can two people love each other and still be incompatible?
Yes. Love is a feeling; compatibility is how two lives fit day to day — time, money, conflict, plans. Strong feelings can coexist with a real mismatch on something that matters, like wanting children or where to live. A test cannot settle that, but it can show which differences are worth a calm, specific conversation.
Is Wabiro free?
Yes. Every experience gives you a complete result for free, without an account: your score, profile, stats or verdict, and a card to share. Some experiences also offer an optional one-time report or unlock — labelled with its price, shown only after your free result, and it never renews. Separately, Wabiro+ is an optional subscription that connects your results over time; no free result depends on it.
Do I need to create an account or give my e-mail?
No. Nothing is asked before your result — no e-mail, no card, no sign-up. An optional account (magic link, no password) lets you recover a purchase on another device and, if you want, keep your Wabiro ID summaries across devices. Only Wabiro+, the optional subscription, requires one, because a subscription belongs to an account.
Is this a psychological or clinical test?
No. Wabiro is a self-reflection and entertainment tool built on documented rules. It is not a clinical assessment, a therapy service or a professional relationship diagnosis, and it never labels anyone toxic, narcissistic or abusive. If you are worried about your mental health or your safety, talk to a professional.
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Are We Compatible?
Describe yourself, not the couple you would like to be. Your partner will never see your individual answers — only where your styles match and where they differ.
Wabiro tests are entertainment and self-reflection, not clinical assessments, therapy or professional advice.