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Is My Partner a Red Flag?

A careful, free test to sort what you observe in your relationship into healthy signals, zones to watch and concerning behaviours. No diagnosis, no verdict — a clearer picture.

  • 5 min
  • 29 questions
  • Free
  • No account needed

How the score is calculated

Eight dimensions, honestly weighted

Every question maps to one dimension. Weights are public, the formula is documented, and no result is hidden behind a paywall.

24 questions × 4 answers → one 0–100 index. No hidden weighting.

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  1. Boundaries & autonomy

    Saying what is OK and what is not, and keeping a life of your own inside the relationship.

    20%
  2. Jealousy & control

    Monitoring, checking, and needing to know — versus trusting and letting be.

    15%
  3. Accountability & repair

    Owning mistakes, apologising cleanly and coming back after a conflict.

    15%
  4. Communication

    Saying things out loud instead of expecting them to be guessed — and not using silence as a weapon.

    15%
  5. Honesty & consistency

    Words that match actions, and truths that do not depend on who is listening.

    10%
  6. Emotional availability

    Staying present when things get intense instead of pulling away.

    10%
  7. Conflict management

    Keeping disagreements about the actual topic, without escalation.

    10%
  8. Empathy & respect

    Taking the other person’s feelings seriously, in private and in public.

    5%

Result patterns

9 possible patterns

Every result names a pattern, not a person. Each one comes with strengths, things to watch and a concrete next step.

  • Mostly green signals

    What you describe looks solid.

  • Space & boundary signals

    Your “no” does not always land.

  • Jealousy & control signals

    Questions that feel like checks.

  • Accountability signals

    Somehow it is always your fault.

  • Communication signals

    Silence, twists and sudden fights.

  • Consistency signals

    Two versions of the same person.

  • Emotional availability signals

    Hot, cold, hot, cold.

  • Conflict signals

    Disagreements that get loud, long or both.

  • Respect signals

    Jokes that are not really jokes.

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Is the Wabiro Red Flag Test really free?

Yes. The test gives you a complete result — your score, your level, your main pattern, two strengths, three patterns to watch, one action for today and a shareable card — for free, without an account. The premium report is an optional one-off purchase.

Does the partner test tell me if my partner is toxic or narcissistic?

No. It never labels a person. You describe how often you observe 24 concrete behaviours; the result sorts them into eight dimensions and four levels, and gives you one thing to observe, ask or say. Whether a relationship is right for you is not something a test can decide.

Will my partner know I took the partner test?

Not unless you tell them. Your answers stay on your device, nothing is sent anywhere by default, and there is no account or e-mail. If you create a share link, only your level, score and main signal are stored — never your answers, and never who you were describing.

How is the score calculated?

Each of the 24 questions belongs to one of eight dimensions with a public weight (boundaries 20%, jealousy and control 15%, accountability 15%, communication 15%, honesty 10%, emotional availability 10%, conflict 10%, empathy 5%). Answers are scored 0–3, protective items are reversed, each dimension gets a 0–100 score and the weighted average gives your 0–100 red flag index. The full method is on the methodology page.

Where do my answers go?

Nowhere, by default. They stay in your browser’s local storage. If you create a share link or buy a report, we store your score, level and profile name on our servers — never your individual answers, and never in analytics.

Is this a psychological or clinical test?

No. Wabiro is a self-reflection and entertainment tool built on documented rules. It is not a clinical assessment, a therapy service or a professional relationship diagnosis, and it never labels anyone toxic, narcissistic or abusive. If you are worried about your mental health or your safety, talk to a professional.

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