Red Flag Test: does your relationship show warning signs?
A careful, free test to sort what you observe in your relationship into healthy signals, zones to watch and concerning behaviours. No diagnosis, no verdict — a clearer picture, and what to do with it.
- 5 min
- 29 questions
- Free
- No account needed
- Shareable
Your answers stay on this device. Your full result is free; an optional in-depth report is offered after it.
What is the “Red Flag” test?
The Red Flag Test asks 24 scored questions about what your partner actually does — not what they say — across eight weighted dimensions (boundaries, jealousy and control, accountability, communication, honesty, emotional availability, conflict, respect), plus five unscored safety questions. It returns a red flag score out of 100, the dimensions that stand out, what the score does and does not mean, and the guide that explains it. It never labels a person: it organises what you observe.
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What it measures
- Boundaries & autonomy
- Saying what is OK and what is not, and keeping a life of your own inside the relationship.
- Jealousy & control
- Monitoring, checking, and needing to know — versus trusting and letting be.
- Accountability & repair
- Owning mistakes, apologising cleanly and coming back after a conflict.
- Communication
- Saying things out loud instead of expecting them to be guessed — and not using silence as a weapon.
- Honesty & consistency
- Words that match actions, and truths that do not depend on who is listening.
- Emotional availability
- Staying present when things get intense instead of pulling away.
- Conflict management
- Keeping disagreements about the actual topic, without escalation.
- Empathy & respect
- Taking the other person’s feelings seriously, in private and in public.
How it’s scored
You describe how often you observe 24 concrete behaviours in your partner, each worth 0 to 3 points. The behaviours belong to eight dimensions with fixed public weights, and six high-severity behaviours (surveillance, control over appearance, punishing silence, insults, pressure until you give in, public contempt) count 1.5 times inside their dimension. Each dimension is scored 0–100 and the weighted average gives a 0–100 red flag score. Five extra questions screen for safety concerns and never change the score.
Read the full methodWhat the score means
- 75–100Strong signals — consider supportWhat you describe includes strong signals. A quiz cannot judge a relationship, but a trusted person or a professional can help you think it through.
- 50–74Several concerning behavioursSeveral patterns you describe are concerning. Talking about them with someone outside the relationship can help.
- 25–49Some zones to observeA few behaviours deserve a closer look and probably a conversation.
- 0–24Mostly healthy signalsWhat you describe looks mostly healthy. No relationship is perfect; this one seems to have solid bases.
What is a red flag?
A red flag is a repeated behaviour that undermines trust, safety or respect in a relationship — such as monitoring, punishing silence, blame reversal or contempt. One bad moment is not a red flag; a pattern is.
Examples of red flags
- Checking your phone, then denying it when asked.
- Going silent for days as a punishment after every disagreement.
- Turning every concern you raise into your fault.
Red flag vs yellow flag
A yellow flag is worth noticing once; a red flag keeps coming back and cannot be raised without blame or punishment.
Red flag vs the ick
An ick is about your attraction; a red flag is about how someone treats you.
A red flag describes a behaviour, not a diagnosis of a person. Fear, threats, violence or isolation are safety issues first. Safety resources
Read the full guide: What is a red flag? Definition and examplesRed flag vs yellow flag: what is the difference?Glossary entry
Possible results
9 possible results
Every result comes with a label, two strengths, three tells and a line to use.
Mostly green signals
What you describe looks solid.
Space & boundary signals
Your “no” does not always land.
Jealousy & control signals
Questions that feel like checks.
Accountability signals
Somehow it is always your fault.
Communication signals
Silence, twists and sudden fights.
Consistency signals
Two versions of the same person.
Emotional availability signals
Hot, cold, hot, cold.
Conflict signals
Disagreements that get loud, long or both.
Respect signals
Jokes that are not really jokes.
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Questions people ask
See all questionsDoes the partner test tell me if my partner is toxic or narcissistic?
No. It never labels a person. You describe how often you observe 24 concrete behaviours; the result sorts them into eight dimensions and four levels, and gives you one thing to observe, ask or say. Whether a relationship is right for you is not something a test can decide.
Will my partner know I took the partner test?
Not unless you tell them. Your answers stay on your device, nothing is sent anywhere by default, and there is no account or e-mail. If you create a share link, only your level, score and main signal are stored — never your answers, and never who you were describing.
Is it fair to describe my partner without them knowing?
The test only records your own observations, stays on your device and produces no verdict about the other person — it is a way to put what you see into words. Wabiro must not be used to monitor, investigate or build a case against someone; if you share the result, share it as your perspective.
Is Wabiro free?
Yes. Every experience gives you a complete result for free, without an account: your score, profile, stats or verdict, and a card to share. Some experiences also offer an optional one-time report or unlock — labelled with its price, shown only after your free result, and it never renews. Separately, Wabiro+ is an optional subscription that connects your results over time; no free result depends on it.
Where do my answers go?
Nowhere, by default. Questionnaire answers stay in your browser and results are calculated there; imported chats are analysed on your device and never uploaded. If you create a share link or buy an unlock, we store a short summary (a score, a profile or a few aggregate numbers) — never your individual answers or messages, and never in analytics.
Is this a psychological or clinical test?
No. Wabiro is a self-reflection and entertainment tool built on documented rules. It is not a clinical assessment, a therapy service or a professional relationship diagnosis, and it never labels anyone toxic, narcissistic or abusive. If you are worried about your mental health or your safety, talk to a professional.
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Red Flag Test: does your relationship show warning signs?
Describe what actually happens, not what you hope or fear. This test cannot judge a person or a relationship: it helps you organise what you observe.
Wabiro tests are entertainment and self-reflection, not clinical assessments, therapy or professional advice.