Am I a Red Flag?
A free 24-question test to spot the relationship patterns you may be overlooking — boundaries, jealousy, repair, communication and more. Instant result, no sign-up.
- 4 min
- 24 questions
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Am I a red flag?
The Wabiro Red Flag Test is a free 24-question quiz that scores how often you do the things partners complain about — checking, sulking, dodging apologies, blurring boundaries — across eight relationship dimensions. You get a red flag index out of 100 (and its mirror, a green flag score), a named pattern and a shareable card. It is entertainment and self-reflection, not a diagnosis.
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What it measures
- Boundaries & autonomy
- Saying what is OK and what is not, and keeping a life of your own inside the relationship.
- Jealousy & control
- Monitoring, checking, and needing to know — versus trusting and letting be.
- Accountability & repair
- Owning mistakes, apologising cleanly and coming back after a conflict.
- Communication
- Saying things out loud instead of expecting them to be guessed — and not using silence as a weapon.
- Honesty & consistency
- Words that match actions, and truths that do not depend on who is listening.
- Emotional availability
- Staying present when things get intense instead of pulling away.
- Conflict management
- Keeping disagreements about the actual topic, without escalation.
- Empathy & respect
- Taking the other person’s feelings seriously, in private and in public.
How it’s scored
Each answer is worth 0 to 3 points. Every question belongs to one of eight dimensions with a fixed public weight. Each dimension is scored 0–100, and the weighted average is your 0–100 red flag index. The same rules produce the same result every time.
Read the full methodWhat the score means
- 75–100Strong signals to examineImportant relationship signals to look at honestly, ideally with someone you trust.
- 50–74Several patterns deserve attentionSeveral patterns are showing up regularly. They are learnable, not permanent.
- 25–49A few patterns to watchA few behaviours worth keeping an eye on. Nothing dramatic, but they add up.
- 0–24Mostly green signalsMostly healthy patterns. Keep doing what works and stay curious about the rest.
How Wabiro users score · See the anonymous results data
Red flag: examples and how it differs
A red flag is a repeated behaviour that undermines trust, safety or respect in a relationship — such as monitoring, punishing silence, blame reversal or contempt. One bad moment is not a red flag; a pattern is.
Examples of red flags
- Checking your phone, then denying it when asked.
- Going silent for days as a punishment after every disagreement.
- Turning every concern you raise into your fault.
Red flag vs yellow flag
A yellow flag is worth noticing once; a red flag keeps coming back and cannot be raised without blame or punishment.
Red flag vs the ick
An ick is about your attraction; a red flag is about how someone treats you.
A red flag describes a behaviour, not a diagnosis of a person. Fear, threats, violence or isolation are safety issues first. Safety resources
Read the full guide: What is a red flag? Definition and examplesRed flag vs yellow flag: what is the difference?Glossary entry
Possible results
9 possible results
Every result comes with a label, two strengths, three tells and a line to use.
The Steady One
Mostly green signals.
The Boundary Blurrer
You give a lot. Sometimes all of it.
The Watchful One
You check. Then you check again.
The Never-Wrong One
Sorry is a full sentence. You add a paragraph.
Radio Silence
They should just know. They don’t.
The Convenient Truth
Not lies exactly. Just… edits.
The Emotionally Distant One
Close is fine. Closer is a lot.
The Escalator
It started about the dishes.
The Main Character
Great story. Where are the other characters?
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Questions people ask
See all questionsIs the Wabiro Red Flag Test really free?
Yes. The test gives you a complete result — your score, your level, your main pattern, two strengths, three patterns to watch, one action for today and a shareable card — for free, without an account. The premium report is an optional one-off purchase.
How is the red flag score calculated?
Each of the 24 questions belongs to one of eight dimensions with a public weight (boundaries 20%, jealousy and control 15%, accountability 15%, communication 15%, honesty 10%, emotional availability 10%, conflict 10%, empathy 5%). Answers are scored 0–3, protective items are reversed, each dimension gets a 0–100 score and the weighted average gives your 0–100 red flag index. The full method is on the methodology page.
What do the four result levels mean?
0–24 is “Mostly green signals”, 25–49 “A few patterns to watch”, 50–74 “Several patterns deserve attention” and 75–100 “Strong signals to examine”. A level describes how often certain behaviours show up in your answers — it is not a verdict on who you are.
Can someone have both red flags and green flags?
Yes — almost everyone does. A red flag is a pattern that tends to harm trust or safety; a green flag is one that builds it. The same person can be honest and accountable but jealous, or warm but avoidant in conflict. That is why the test scores eight dimensions separately and names two strengths next to the patterns to watch.
Do I need to create an account or give my e-mail?
No. Nothing is asked before your result — no e-mail, no card, no sign-up. An optional account (magic link, no password) lets you recover a purchase on another device and, if you want, keep your Wabiro ID summaries across devices. Only Wabiro+, the optional subscription, requires one, because a subscription belongs to an account.
Where do my answers go?
Nowhere, by default. Questionnaire answers stay in your browser and results are calculated there; imported chats are analysed on your device and never uploaded. If you create a share link or buy an unlock, we store a short summary (a score, a profile or a few aggregate numbers) — never your individual answers or messages, and never in analytics.
The test says I am a “red flag”. Am I a bad person?
No. A high score means some patterns show up often — patterns that are learnable, and therefore unlearnable. The result deliberately avoids labels: it names the behaviour, not the person, and gives you one concrete thing to try today.
Guides
Go further
- 6 min read
What is a red flag? Definition and examples
A red flag is a repeated behaviour that undermines trust, safety or respect in a relationship — such as monitoring, punishing silence, blame reversal or contempt. One bad moment is not a red flag; a pattern is.
- 4 min read
Green flags in a relationship: what they actually look like
A green flag is a repeated behaviour that builds trust and safety: apologising without a "but", respecting a limit the first time, staying consistent in private and in public, and coming back to repair after a fight.
- 6 min read
How to communicate after an argument (without starting another one)
Wait until you are both calm (at least twenty minutes), come back with one sentence that owns your part, describe the moment rather than the person, and agree on one small thing to do differently next time. Repair is a skill, not a mood.
Am I a Red Flag?
Answer according to how you usually behave, not the image you would like to give. There are no right answers — only honest ones.
Wabiro tests are entertainment and self-reflection, not clinical assessments, therapy or professional advice.