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Am I a Red Flag?

A free 24-question test to spot the relationship patterns you may be overlooking — boundaries, jealousy, repair, communication and more. Instant result, no sign-up.

  • 4 min
  • 24 questions
  • Free
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How the score is calculated

Eight dimensions, honestly weighted

Every question maps to one dimension. Weights are public, the formula is documented, and no result is hidden behind a paywall.

24 questions × 4 answers → one 0–100 index. No hidden weighting.

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  1. Boundaries & autonomy

    Saying what is OK and what is not, and keeping a life of your own inside the relationship.

    20%
  2. Jealousy & control

    Monitoring, checking, and needing to know — versus trusting and letting be.

    15%
  3. Accountability & repair

    Owning mistakes, apologising cleanly and coming back after a conflict.

    15%
  4. Communication

    Saying things out loud instead of expecting them to be guessed — and not using silence as a weapon.

    15%
  5. Honesty & consistency

    Words that match actions, and truths that do not depend on who is listening.

    10%
  6. Emotional availability

    Staying present when things get intense instead of pulling away.

    10%
  7. Conflict management

    Keeping disagreements about the actual topic, without escalation.

    10%
  8. Empathy & respect

    Taking the other person’s feelings seriously, in private and in public.

    5%

Result patterns

9 possible patterns

Every result names a pattern, not a person. Each one comes with strengths, things to watch and a concrete next step.

  • The Steady One

    Mostly green signals.

  • The Boundary Blurrer

    You give a lot. Sometimes all of it.

  • The Watchful One

    You check. Then you check again.

  • The Never-Wrong One

    Sorry is a full sentence. You add a paragraph.

  • Radio Silence

    They should just know. They don’t.

  • The Convenient Truth

    Not lies exactly. Just… edits.

  • The Emotionally Distant One

    Close is fine. Closer is a lot.

  • The Escalator

    It started about the dishes.

  • The Main Character

    Great story. Where are the other characters?

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Is the Wabiro Red Flag Test really free?

Yes. The test gives you a complete result — your score, your level, your main pattern, two strengths, three patterns to watch, one action for today and a shareable card — for free, without an account. The premium report is an optional one-off purchase.

Do I need to create an account or give my e-mail?

No. Answers are stored on your device and the score is calculated in your browser. Nothing is asked before your result — no e-mail, no card, no sign-up. An optional account (magic link, no password) only exists to keep access to a purchased report from another device.

How is the score calculated?

Each of the 24 questions belongs to one of eight dimensions with a public weight (boundaries 20%, jealousy and control 15%, accountability 15%, communication 15%, honesty 10%, emotional availability 10%, conflict 10%, empathy 5%). Answers are scored 0–3, protective items are reversed, each dimension gets a 0–100 score and the weighted average gives your 0–100 red flag index. The full method is on the methodology page.

What do the four result levels mean?

0–24 is “Mostly green signals”, 25–49 “A few patterns to watch”, 50–74 “Several patterns deserve attention” and 75–100 “Strong signals to examine”. A level describes how often certain behaviours show up in your answers — it is not a verdict on who you are.

Where do my answers go?

Nowhere, by default. They stay in your browser’s local storage. If you create a share link or buy a report, we store your score, level and profile name on our servers — never your individual answers, and never in analytics.

The test says I am a “red flag”. Am I a bad person?

No. A high score means some patterns show up often — patterns that are learnable, and therefore unlearnable. The result deliberately avoids labels: it names the behaviour, not the person, and gives you one concrete thing to try today.

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Wabiro is not a clinical assessment, therapy service or professional relationship diagnosis.