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Am I a Red Flag?
A free 24-question test to spot the relationship patterns you may be overlooking — boundaries, jealousy, repair, communication and more. Instant result, no sign-up.
- 4 min
- 24 questions
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How the score is calculated
Eight dimensions, honestly weighted
Every question maps to one dimension. Weights are public, the formula is documented, and no result is hidden behind a paywall.
24 questions × 4 answers → one 0–100 index. No hidden weighting.
Learn moreBoundaries & autonomy
Saying what is OK and what is not, and keeping a life of your own inside the relationship.
20%Jealousy & control
Monitoring, checking, and needing to know — versus trusting and letting be.
15%Accountability & repair
Owning mistakes, apologising cleanly and coming back after a conflict.
15%Communication
Saying things out loud instead of expecting them to be guessed — and not using silence as a weapon.
15%Honesty & consistency
Words that match actions, and truths that do not depend on who is listening.
10%Emotional availability
Staying present when things get intense instead of pulling away.
10%Conflict management
Keeping disagreements about the actual topic, without escalation.
10%Empathy & respect
Taking the other person’s feelings seriously, in private and in public.
5%
Result patterns
9 possible patterns
Every result names a pattern, not a person. Each one comes with strengths, things to watch and a concrete next step.
The Steady One
Mostly green signals.
The Boundary Blurrer
You give a lot. Sometimes all of it.
The Watchful One
You check. Then you check again.
The Never-Wrong One
Sorry is a full sentence. You add a paragraph.
Radio Silence
They should just know. They don’t.
The Convenient Truth
Not lies exactly. Just… edits.
The Emotionally Distant One
Close is fine. Closer is a lot.
The Escalator
It started about the dishes.
The Main Character
Great story. Where are the other characters?
Questions people ask
See all questionsIs the Wabiro Red Flag Test really free?
Yes. The test gives you a complete result — your score, your level, your main pattern, two strengths, three patterns to watch, one action for today and a shareable card — for free, without an account. The premium report is an optional one-off purchase.
Do I need to create an account or give my e-mail?
No. Answers are stored on your device and the score is calculated in your browser. Nothing is asked before your result — no e-mail, no card, no sign-up. An optional account (magic link, no password) only exists to keep access to a purchased report from another device.
How is the score calculated?
Each of the 24 questions belongs to one of eight dimensions with a public weight (boundaries 20%, jealousy and control 15%, accountability 15%, communication 15%, honesty 10%, emotional availability 10%, conflict 10%, empathy 5%). Answers are scored 0–3, protective items are reversed, each dimension gets a 0–100 score and the weighted average gives your 0–100 red flag index. The full method is on the methodology page.
What do the four result levels mean?
0–24 is “Mostly green signals”, 25–49 “A few patterns to watch”, 50–74 “Several patterns deserve attention” and 75–100 “Strong signals to examine”. A level describes how often certain behaviours show up in your answers — it is not a verdict on who you are.
Where do my answers go?
Nowhere, by default. They stay in your browser’s local storage. If you create a share link or buy a report, we store your score, level and profile name on our servers — never your individual answers, and never in analytics.
The test says I am a “red flag”. Am I a bad person?
No. A high score means some patterns show up often — patterns that are learnable, and therefore unlearnable. The result deliberately avoids labels: it names the behaviour, not the person, and gives you one concrete thing to try today.
Guides
Go further
- 5 min read
What is a red flag in a relationship?
A red flag is a repeated behaviour that undermines trust, safety or respect in a relationship — such as monitoring, punishing silence, blame reversal or contempt. One bad moment is not a red flag; a pattern is.
Learn more - 4 min read
Green flags in a relationship: what they actually look like
A green flag is a repeated behaviour that builds trust and safety: apologising without a "but", respecting a limit the first time, staying consistent in private and in public, and coming back to repair after a fight.
Learn more - 5 min read
Red flag vs toxic behaviour: why the word matters
A red flag describes a specific repeated behaviour ("goes silent for days to punish me"). "Toxic" is a global label for a person. Labels end conversations; described behaviours can be changed, discussed or used as a clear reason to leave.
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Wabiro is not a clinical assessment, therapy service or professional relationship diagnosis.