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What’s your attachment style?
Twenty statements, about four minutes. See where you sit on the two dimensions researchers use for adult attachment — and whether that reads as secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful-avoidant.
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What is an attachment style test?
An attachment style test estimates how you handle closeness and distance in relationships. Wabiro’s version asks 20 original statements and places you on the two dimensions researchers use for adult attachment: anxiety about rejection and avoidance of closeness. Low on both reads as secure, high anxiety as anxious, high avoidance as avoidant, and high on both as fearful-avoidant. It is a self-reflection quiz built on that research, not a validated clinical measure, and attachment patterns can change over time.
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What it measures
- Relationship anxiety
- How much you worry about being let down, left or loved less than you love.
- Avoidance of closeness
- How uneasy you get when someone depends on you, or you on them.
- Reaching for reassurance
- What you do under stress: check, follow up, need it settled now.
- Pulling away
- What you do under stress: go quiet, handle it alone, cool off on someone.
How it’s scored
Twenty statements are answered on a four-step scale (0–3). Six measure attachment anxiety and six measure avoidance of closeness, with two reversed statements on each; each becomes a 0–100 score. Each axis counts as raised at 50 or above: neither raised is secure, anxiety alone is anxious, avoidance alone is avoidant, both is fearful-avoidant. Eight more statements measure what you do under stress (reaching for reassurance, pulling away); they feed the report but never the label.
Read the full methodWhat the score means
- 70–100HighOne of the main ways you handle closeness.
- 50–69RaisedA regular part of how you handle closeness.
- 30–49SomeShows up now and then, usually under stress.
- 0–29LowRarely part of how you handle closeness.
Attachment style: examples and how it differs
An attachment style is a pattern in how a person seeks closeness and handles distance in relationships, usually described as secure, anxious or avoidant. The idea comes from attachment theory (Bowlby) and was applied to adult romance by Hazan and Shaver in 1987. It is measured with validated questionnaires; quick online quizzes only approximate it.
Examples
- Needing reassurance after a slow reply (often described as anxious).
- Pulling away when things get serious (often described as avoidant).
Attachment style vs dating archetype
Attachment style is a studied construct; a dating archetype is an entertainment label for a dating approach.
Wabiro’s attachment style test is a short self-reflection quiz built on the two research dimensions (anxiety and avoidance); it is not a validated questionnaire like the ECR-R and not a diagnosis. Styles can change over time and across relationships.
Read the full guide: The 4 attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidantGlossary entry
Possible results
4 possible results
Every result comes with a label, two strengths, three tells and a line to use.
Secure
Close is comfortable. Space is fine too.
Anxious
You notice everything — especially the silence.
Avoidant
You love people best with the door slightly open.
Fearful-avoidant
Come closer. No, wait.
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Questions people ask
See all questionsWhat are the four attachment styles?
Researchers describe adult attachment with two dimensions: anxiety (worry about rejection or being loved less) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness and depending on others). Low on both is usually called secure, high anxiety anxious, high avoidance avoidant, and high on both fearful-avoidant. Wabiro places you on both dimensions and names the style from where you land, so you also see how close you are to another style.
How accurate is this attachment style test?
It is a 20-statement self-reflection quiz written by Wabiro around the two dimensions used in attachment research. It has not been validated like research questionnaires such as the ECR-R, so treat it as a structured mirror rather than a measurement. Your answers are scored with fixed, published rules — the same answers always give the same result — and the method page explains every step.
What does fearful-avoidant mean?
Fearful-avoidant describes someone who scores high on both attachment anxiety and avoidance: wanting closeness and being wary of it at the same time, which often shows up as a push-pull. It is sometimes called disorganised attachment, a term that comes from research on children. It describes a pattern in your answers, not a diagnosis, and it is not a judgement about your past.
Can your attachment style change?
Yes. Studies that follow people over time find attachment is fairly stable but far from fixed: it can shift with new relationships, life events and deliberate work, and people often move toward security in relationships where the other person responds reliably. That is why Wabiro suggests retaking the test after a few months rather than treating the result as permanent.
Is Wabiro free?
Yes. Every experience gives you a complete result for free, without an account: your score, profile, stats or verdict, and a card to share. Some experiences also offer an optional one-time unlock for a deeper report — it is always labelled with its price, shown only after your free result, and never a subscription.
Do I need to create an account or give my e-mail?
No. Nothing is asked before your result — no e-mail, no card, no sign-up. An optional account (magic link, no password) only exists to recover a purchase on another device and, if you want, to keep your Wabiro ID summaries across devices.
Where do my answers go?
Nowhere, by default. Questionnaire answers stay in your browser and results are calculated there; imported chats are analysed on your device and never uploaded. If you create a share link or buy an unlock, we store a short summary (a score, a profile or a few aggregate numbers) — never your individual answers or messages, and never in analytics.
Is this a psychological or clinical test?
No. Wabiro is a self-reflection and entertainment tool built on documented rules. It is not a clinical assessment, a therapy service or a professional relationship diagnosis, and it never labels anyone toxic, narcissistic or abusive. If you are worried about your mental health or your safety, talk to a professional.
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What’s your attachment style?
Think about close relationships in general, mostly romantic ones. If you are single, think about past relationships or people you have been close to. Answer for how you usually are, not how you would like to be.
Wabiro tests are entertainment and self-reflection, not clinical assessments, therapy or professional advice.