Day 2 of 14 · 5 min
Three words for how you want to feel
Today
Choose three words for how you want to feel in your clothes, to guide the rest of the program.
Why it works
Rules about what to wear tend to start from the outside: what is ‘in’, what other people will think. A steadier compass starts from the inside. How do you want to feel when you’re dressed? Calm? Ready? Playful? Warm? Unbothered?
Three words are enough. They work like a short brief you give yourself each morning. Faced with two shirts, you can ask which one is closer to relaxed, sharp, warm, which is a much easier question than ‘which one is better?’
Pick feeling words rather than words about how others should see you. ‘Comfortable’, ‘bold’, ‘light’ or ‘grounded’ give you something to test. Your words can change later; today’s three are a draft, not a vow.
Your step
Three words, one test
Write your three words. Then open your wardrobe and take out two pieces that already match at least one word, and one that matches none. Look at them side by side and note what separates them.
What it can look like
Kenji, 52, has worn the same grey for years and isn’t sure he has a style at all. After some crossing out, he lands on *calm, tidy, a little warm*. Holding up two shirts, he sees that the rust-coloured one says ‘warm’ in a way the grey doesn’t. He doesn’t throw out the grey. He just has a new question to ask.
If it was hard
If no words come, start from your everyday life: how do you want to feel walking into work, a class or a family meal? One word is enough to begin. You can come back to the other two whenever you like.